Confusion

Confusion is a man’s only adversary. There is no other.

– Markus Halvorson

Warning: Do NOT dive into this Area without having first been through START HERE. 

Below are most of the great confusers of men. The idea here is to simply be aware of them, and over time you’ll start to immediately recognize them when they show up in your daily life. Then you’ll shake your head and chuckle to yourself because now you’re wise to them. Their power over you will diminish over time.

We also want to learn how to routinely CATCH AND RELEASE these things. Because we’re humans, many habits, triggers and reactions get hardwired into us as kids, or from any kind of trauma, and they’ll keep rearing their ugly heads throughout our life no matter how much personal development and therapy we may have had. 😀

Therefore, the best we may ever be able to do is to get good at catching them when they show up, like grabbing an annoying gnat that’s flying around your head, and then squish it and throw it downOr if you’re a fisherman, you’d catch it and throw it back.

Shame

As Brené Brown explains:

Shame is an “intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” It’s an emotion that affects all of us and profoundly shapes the way we interact in the world.

For us men, let’s pick one huge moment of shame that virtually all of us have in common, and that’s hitting puberty.

Most of us can remember our first orgasm. It was super intense, it scared the crap our of us, and there was no way we were going to tell anyome, especially mom and dad. Many of us wondered if there was something wrong with us. But it felt so good.

The next day we realized we didn’t die and we seemed to be alright. Let’s see if we can make it happen again! And, well, practice makes perfect.

But the shame comes in when we have to HIDE. It’s the hiding that’s where the damage and destruction lies. This is true for anything else we hide in our lives, right?

This shame is connected with our dicks – that thing everyone says is disgusting, the devil’s workshop, playing with it will cause hair to grow on your hands, and all that stupid stuff. Keep it covered up. No one wants to see it. Don’t touch it or talk about it.

Control

But wait, there’s more!

Since forever, humans have been using shame TO CONTROL US.

Usually what hangs in the balance is our BELONGING to a community. Our continued membership in a community, family, club, group of friends, etc, becomes more important because were all hard-wired to belong to a community. One thing that gets missed so often is that people will parrot the beliefs of their community first before they tell anyone what they really think. This is often the case in politics and religion. Being kicked out or not included is not an option.

And the shame/control (reminds me of space/time) comes from everywhere – our spouse, teachers, parents, culture, religion, friends, brothers and sisters, TV and movies, books, advertisements, social media, and on and on.

It’s very confusing, and often a moving target.

The strategy is to engage your Shame Detection System and alert yourself each time there is shame/controlling going on. Just work on being really good at noticing it. Beneficial things will follow.

This also interacts with caring too much about what other people think which we talk about later in this area.

Shame vs. Guilt

Shame relates to who you are, to the core.

Guilt relates to something in particular that you did..

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The Manhood Confusion Attack (MCA)

There’s a powerful “social virus” that’s been replicating itself in men for millennia, getting passed from men to boys, boys to boys, who then become men who pass it along to more boys.

This virus has wreaked untold damage in our world. It’s responsible for wars and the deaths and murders of hundreds of millions of people, it is a significant factor in the divorce rate, and it’s just plain fucked up.

With rare exception, each and every one of us has been infected by this virus. And for most of us it happened either in our family life or on the elementary school playground.

It never had a name! So in 2018 I gave it a name so that we can refer to it and talk about it and it’s no longer nebulous and intangible. It’s called the Manhood Confusion Attack. And while we’re at it let’s give it an acronym too: MCA.

This is where boys and men set the pecking order around them by using any of the following names and expressions:

Sissy, wuss, pussy, cocksucker, homo, fag, you throw/run like a girl, that’s so gay, “what are you going to do, run home to your mommie and cry?”

It’s even gotten into language where a bully might ask a nerd “Dude, why are you so gay on science?”

Calling someone’s manhood into question triggers a standard response causing boys to go out of their way to make sure they’re not perceived as weak, feminine, or gay.  

Often kids have no idea what gay really refers to yet because they’re prepubescent. All they know is that it’s apparently disgusting, sick, and seriously messed up, and that kids get bullied and beat up and they hear on the news that gay people get killed. There is also a complete lack of education to correct this because men are afraid to talk about “gay stuff” and are uneducated themselves. (This handbook gives all men everywhere the missing education in the Sex Area.)

To clairify:

  • Calling someone’s manhood/masculinity into question is the cause
  • there is the protective and preventative reaction
  • and there’s a symptom that follows that does all the serious damage…

The symptom is what we call "the FoG" (Fear of Gay)

It’s also caused homophobia, but we’re abolutely rejecting that word here in the handbook for a bunch of reasons that we won’t get sidetracked with here. 

The new term works out perfectly because the acronym is perfect in that it really does create a fog, that’s all around us, and it’s been there for so long it’s often not even noticed. Kinda pollution in the air, or like cigarette smoke in a Las Vegas Casino. You get used to it and stop noticing it.

The full sentence we want everyone to repeat is:

He’s got the FoG and it’s not his fault.

We don’t want to shame anyone, because it affects all of us, and we’re not going to allow the creation of an “us vs. them” situation. Instead all of us are always working together to help dissolve the FoG, in an unemotional and untriggered way, kinda like the way we might help each other learn the difference between “their” and “they’re” (and it doesn’t trigger people.)

 

Reaction Is To "Hide, hesitate, and overcompensate"

Instead of understanding the sitaution, we remain confused and simply hide, hesitate and overcompensate to protect ourselves. 

How this backfires on all of us men

mention that we hesitate to form brotherhoods (see the brotherhood Area and the pixar movie luca.

The Solution

The Sex Area will shows that each of us is a unique mix of the entire pile of sexuality ,and any attempt to create dividing lines to separate this from that shows everyone around them they’re probably afraid of something. 

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Terms And Conditions

In America, when a boy is born he’s automatically put on a “conveyor belt” and automatically opted-in to a program in which:

By the age of 35 he will have found a beautiful sexy woman he’ll always be satisfied with sexually, who is also his best friend and soul mate (the only one in the world) and he will marry her in front of family and friends and express his eternal love for her and never cheat even in thought, and agree they will be together forever until one of them dies. 

He’ll get a high powered job so that he can affort to support a family where his wife doesn’t have to work and afford buying the house and it’s contents, plus the clothes and equipment the four kids will need as they grow up and move through the stages of their lives, including college.

And at some point there’s a 50/50 chance they will get divorced (and a 75% chance she will ask for the divorce) and he will lose half of his wealth and more into the future, share access to the children, and verbally denigrate his ex-wife into perpetuity.  [Option 2: Stay married and be miserable.]

Accept Terms and Conditions

What a great program!

(The checkmark above actually works. Tap it.)

The 10-20% of men who figure out that they are, in fact, actually gay same-sexual will eventually uncheck that box themselves, but straight opposite-sexual men rarely will even if they have no desire to get married, or be paired up with a woman, leaving them at odds with the world they live in. It’s confusing as hell.


An Alternative

The wiser thing to do (once you’ve moved out on your own 😀) is tell everyone that:

  • you have no intention of getting married
  • if you do pair up with a woman, you’ll live with them for several years before getting married
  • you aren’t going to have any kids in spite of your mom harping on you that she wants grandkids
  • you’re a whole and complete person without having to pair up with anyone, and there’s nothing wrong with you
  • you don’t care if anyone thinks you might be gay same-sexual (have them read this handbook)


This way, if you DO do any of these things, it will clearly be because you wanted to
, on your terms, and not because of the expectations of family, friends, buds and bros, religion, society, co-workers, and everyone you meet in the future.

But how many guys are actually going to do that?


What Usually Happens

For many men “It’s better to have been married, divorced, and lose half of your wealth than to never have been married at all.” 

We’re conditioned to think that if we don’t get married or have a girlfriend then there’s something not right about our life. We know that’s not true.

And often unmarried straight opposite-sexual men will either be marginalized (included less) or they will self-marginalize.

Divorced men are given a pass, and they’re sure to mention they’re divorced right away when meeting new people. Or if you’re lucky you’ve got a girlfriend to bring to social gatherings. Whew!

Of course, dating and marriage can work out really well and be amazing, but probably not most of the time. 

All the advice that happily married couples give for “a long and happy marriage” only actually applies to them in their unique circumstances, and is not transferrable. You might as well ignore the advice because you actually CAN figure it out on your own for your own particular circumstances. And you’re motivated to avoid serious mistakes that can easily wipe out decades of your life.

Opposite-sexual men are playing with fire here. But this handbook helps make this easier to manage. Keep at it.

And try not to be resentful of your same-sexual brothers because they’ve got it so easy (relatively speaking). Instead, look to them for ideas and perspective. They didn’t choose to be born same-sexual. And you didn’t choose to be born opposite-sexual attracted to humans who are so unlike you, and you’re horny as hell and sex with them often becomes a power play and eventually unavailable (most of the time, not all of the time).

There’s an old saying that rings true here. “Opportunity and success favor the prepared.” 

Connor Beaton, one of the many “authorities on the lives of men” featured in this handbook will bring some clarity to the situation in the video below, and some data about how things are changing here in the 21st century. 

These changes actually give men some breathing room, and permission not to be married or be paired up with a woman if you don’t want to. But you’ll have to let go of being the strong male conditioning to be a “provider” which is either an instinct or a social construct that’s starting to become obsolete. Check out this amazing short article about the last words of suicidal men to see how strong the “provider” conditioning in men can be.


Recommendations

For one thing, all men need to stop and learn about the Manhood Confusion Attack (MCA) and the resulting symptom “the FoG” to ensure they’re not dating and marrying in order to prove that they’re not same-sexual. It’s a common thing, and it can subconsciously underlie much of the above.

But the thing that underlies ALL of the above even more is worrying too much about what other people think. See the subsection below “Worrying About What People Think” for some fantastic help with that.

If someone is pressuring you because of an inheritance, a position in the family company, or social standing, or keeping up appearances, or wanting grandkids, etc, understand that any outside influences are not allowed. It’s you’re life. 

Opt-out and do the work, with your brothers at your side. We want the best for you.


If It Sounds Like We’re Trying To Talk You Out Of Marriage And Family…

…we are! But the videos below will give you some unexpected reasons to opt-in with modern marriage and family life here in the 21st century where the rules have changed.

We did the hard work to find these awesome videos. Now you do the easy work and watch them.

Terms And Conditions For Same-Sexuals

Again, it’s. good to look at the lives of same-sexuals for perspective.

When their “terms and conditions” box gets unchecked, then anything goes. There are no constraints, expectations, rules.

Still, it’s interesting to see how the social conditioning affects their lives even when there’s no need to comply, such as wanting to get married in a traditional ceremony. Same-sexual men pair up all the time, but many still want to be married and declare a commitment, not to mention the financial and healthcare benefits.

Same-sex relationship also teach us something important – that the idea that a woman and a man “complete each other” and that we aren’t whole unless we’re paired up with a woman is all made up. It’s just flat out not true.

Typically when same-sexuals finally pair up and settle down with someone for decades, they could have had the opposite-sexual equivalent of 10 marriages and divorces, but instead it’s just understood that when couples break up they leave with what they came with and divvy up what was shared. With one same-sex couple I know, the dog was the hardest thing to share. Of course, any kind of breakup is really hard.

Plus, it’s far easier for same-sex couples to get along with each other because they’re both guys and they see the world in similar ways. There is far less over-emotionality. And they both understand how horny men are all the time, and sex is relatively plentiful, and usually in the style us guy’s prefer.

The lives of same-sexual couples, and same-sexual men in general is much easier as long as they live in a city or place where other people really don’t care what other men do with their dicks, and who don’t get their own insecurities triggered by same-sexuals because of their own FoG. 

If same-sexuals live in an hostile environment, neighborhood or city, then it’s wise to get the help they need to move to a place where it isn’t an issue. Moving is really hard, and as us guys have learned in this handbook, no matter what it is, you can’t do it alone.

Summary

Opt out of everything, let everyone around you know, and then opt back in to the things you personally want.

 

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Confusing Love And Sex Together

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Women

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Fitting In

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Worrying Too Much About What People Think

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Being Wanted vs. Being Needed

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Everything, Everywhere, All At Once

This one video is perhaps the most important 20 minutes you’ve ever spent. 

After you watch this, you’ll automatically know how to handle the constant barrage of bad news, and how your brain gets filled with tons of things you didn’t need to think about as you scroll through your social media. 

As part of my job, I must constantly be watching for new videos, articles, and information related to this handbook, every single day, and I can clearly watch as my little mind doesn’t know how to handle it all. But now I CAN handle it.

You will never forget seeing this video that you’ll be so grateful that you saw, and you’ll be telling your friends about it. When you get overloaded, just remember what you learned here.

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The FoG and the Manhood Confusion Attack

These two things are an inseparable pair.

🔸 One is the “cause” – the Manhood Confusion Attack (MCA)

🔸 One is the “symptom” of the cause – the FoG (Fear of Gay)

And there’s also a “result” of the [cause + symptom] pair that causes men to hide, hesitate and overcompensate, and this is now at epidemic levels. It’s so prevalent guys don’t even notice it.

Virtually all men have experienced this cause/symptom/result, but it has never had a formal name. Now it does. This makes it easy to talk about it, be aware of it, and thus easier to eliminate from our lives.

The [Manhood Confusion Attack + FoG] results in men HESITATING in ways that aren’t even related to sex, like being funny, communicating well and so many other things.

How many guys come up to you at the gym and introduce themselves? Like none. I introduce myself to guys at the gym all the time, and in a way that I learned that doesn’t trigger any weirdness, and now they all nod, wave and smile and and appreciates that I didn’t hesitate. There are so many interesting and amazing people at the gym, but the FoG is pretty thick at the gym. My buddy Alex at the gym is the same way and talks to even more guys than I do. He doesn’t have the FoG.


It All Started On The Playground

When we’re kids, us boys are competitive and set the pecking order at home and at school by calling each other names that call our manhood into question including…

Fag, homo, pussy, wuss, sissy, wimp, cocksucker, you throw like a girl, are you going to cry and tell your mommy?

And it even gets into our language where a bully might say to a nerd “Dude, why are you so gay on science?”

This is the “attack” part. Even dads attack their boys, and it’s in so many movies and stories.

Well, before most of us boys even know what sex is, we start hearing about this “gay” thing, whatever that is, but apparently it’s horrible, disgusting and seriously fucked up. 

Boys hear about guys getting beat up and even killed. They hear about politicians banning gay stuff and drag queens fighting back. “Gay” gets associated with femininity of any kind. So don’t act gay.

Instead, hide (wear a hoodie), hesitate (don’t say anything, don’t be funny or extroverted), or overcompensate by being overtly masculine. Distance yourself from homos.


The Fear of Gay, The FoG For Short

The cool thing about the term FoG is that we all live with this kind of actual fog all around us, like air pollution, and we’ve become so accustomed to it we don’t notice it anymore.

And even if we aren’t affected by the FoG any longer, we still have to live with it showing up all around us – kind of like being a non-smoking employee working in a smoke-filled Las Vegas casino.


The Attack Works Really Well In Disabling Men

The FoG causes boys to hesitate getting close to another guy and thus inhibiting them from forming deep brotherhood bonds with other guys that are so essential to a guy’s well-being.

It causes them to doubt themselves more and get out and meet women less, for example.

And it confuses the hell out of them. Now there is this artificial line drawn between gay and straight, and no one knows where it is. They realize that when they’re masturbating and getting the maximum orgasm out of themselves they’re actually learning all about having sex with a dude.

And they’re afraid to look at other guys, but if you don’t, how does a guy learn what a sexy man looks like?

And worst of all, it causes guys to be afraid of checking out this handbook which is the ONLY way to clear up the confusion.

This is a great example of how screwed up things are. Guys have no problem learning about and getting good at anything else in life EXCEPT when it comes to be a well-put together man so that the best in life shows up for us as a result, like women, and work opportunities, and on and on.

We’ll stop here. 

The rest of this topic and it’s solution is covered in throughout the handbook including in the Confusion Area and the Sex Area.

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Definition Of "Man" and "Masculinity"

Man

A MAN is a human whose gender identitiy is predominantly male, he feels like a man, he feels comfortable in the world of men, and feels he belongs in the world of men. Full stop.


Masculinity

MASCULINITY refers to the following collection of “chunks” of human attributes (characteristics) almost always amplifed in men.

  • Brotherhood (multiple, loving, bonded, affectionaate, non-sexual, unforced relationships between men that last a lifetime)
  • Tribal (deep bonding into pairs, groups, clubs, fraternities, tribes, armies, nations that create the OPEN SPACE in which the next three attributes thrive…)
  • Explore, Learn, Discover, Solve
  • Create, Build, Repair, ImproveDestroy
  • Play, Fitness, Compete, Organize, Lead, Control, Fight, Kill
  • Logic, Reason, Integrity
  • Independence, Freedom, Solitude, Quiet
  • Provide for others, Protect family, Look after others
  • Constant intense horniness, Seek variety, GOMO (get off move on), Rape
 
The handbook tries to avoid the word masculinity and instead uses the phrase “male flavored” which is more descriptive and avoids the bad baggage that the term “masculinity” continues to have in all of our heads, along with the confusion it perpetuates.

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Yanker Words

Yanker words are words where, the instant they’re used, they yank us back to the very place we’re trying to get away from.

We avoid using all the yanker words you see below throughout the handbook. Sometimes there’s a preferred alternative.

  • Straight – too often used as a shield. The new term is “opposite-sexual” keeping the focus on just sexuality, which leaves behind all the barnacles that have formed on this label.
  • Gay – unfortunately a weaponized term. It’s baggage also implies membership to a gay subculture which only a minority of “same-sexual” men actually participate in. Most men who are exclusively same-sexual are invisible and you would not know it unless they told you.
  • LGBTQIA+ – We instead use “The Hand Thing” (described in the Sex Area) to better describe the landscape of human sex-related characteristics and then we can avoid this awful list of ad hoc terms that both overlap and leave gaps. The Hand Thing does a far better job, and it’s fun too.
  • Homophobia – The replacement term is the FoG (“Fear of Gay”) that’s the name of symptom of a cause – the Manhood Confusion Attack (MCA) – explained in the Sex area. Referencing the FoG is better because it’s tied to its cause, which homophobia is not. The public cannot explain what causes homophobia. But the FoG is always refered to being the symptom of the Manhood Confusion Attack which every male has experienced.
  • Minorities – The mere mention of this is what perpetuates the idea that something is lesser. Just ignore this word and move on.
  • Racism – Morgan Freeman said in a 60 Minutes interview, “If you want to end racism, stop talking about it.” So true.
  • BIPOC – Black, Indigenous, People Of Color
  • Liberal / Conservative – no one knows what these two words actually men. Get three people together and have them each define them and you’ll see.
  • Patriarchy – all men alive today were born into the “patriarchy” and are not responsible for it. The fact that we live in “a man’s world” is a byproduct of the way men are. The handbook does not recognize this term, use this term, or fight about this term. It’s best ignored and 21C Men are always on the lookout for when women are excluded from anything. However, women ARE excluded from participating in this handbook, just as men are excluded from involvement of the creation and life of the 21st Century Woman Handbook. This separation is for a very good reason and makes it easier to make progress. Men and women are very different creatures.

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ChatGPT - What Is Masculinity?

If you have access to ChatGPT, ask it “What is masculinity” and here is its reply…

“Masculinity is a complex and multifaceted concept that varies across cultures and societies. Broadly speaking, masculinity refers to the set of attributes, behaviors, and roles traditionally associated with men and boys. These can include qualities such as strength, assertiveness, independence, courage, and leadership. However, it is important to note that the understanding of masculinity has evolved over time, and there is increasing recognition that it is not limited to a fixed set of traits. Different cultures and individuals may have their own interpretations of what masculinity means, and there is growing awareness of the importance of embracing a more inclusive and diverse understanding of gender roles.”

Clearly it reflects the confusion that exists in our world. This explains so much, eh?


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WYNSALT - Why You've Never Seen Anything Like This!

It looks like the handbook catches a lot of people offguard. A video is being made that gives a proper introduction to what is unusual and different about it. And it has to be this way like it or not.

Here are the elements that are a part of why no one has seen anything like this before.

  • R&D – Thiis is a topic of interest of Mark’s throughout his lifetime, plus all his speaking gigs over the past 15 years where many ideas were developed and tested, and ultimately the discovery seven years ago that apparently this is his calling and destiny – to make the handbook real.
  • Reset – Walk away from conventional thinking in a sweeeping way. Start over.
  • Structure – The Map of a Man’s Life was developed to structure information for the first time.
  • Adversary – Confusion is a man’s only adversary. There is no other.
  • Tap into an instinct – Brotherhood, allowing us to easily bond, band together and look after each other as we help each other learn and grow all throughout life, rasing all boats.
  • Point Of View – We try to be consistent about taking an outsider point of view, like we’re an alien trying to understand the human race. 
  • Managed Language and Labels – This is one of the most significant things to be mindful of because to a great degree, the English language and all the labels we use are a huge part of the confusion we must endure. The handbook would just end up with more of the same confusion unless we ditch problematic language, labels and terms agressively.
  • Methodology – Consistency, integrity, critical thinking skills, logic, reason, no pandering to the lowest common denominator whatsoever, no fear, and no shame.
  • Men are left with
    • Belonging to a community (can only be in one gang)
    • Resilience and Anti-fragility
    • More Meaning in their lives
    • Restored Connections to People and Planet
In addition, some of this stuff may be before it’s time. As Wayne Gretzky says, we’re skating to where the puck is going to be.
 

First Responders

Years ago I started assembling a list of no more than 150 men, the widely acknowledged size of a “tribe,” whom I personally know and who have expressed interest in the handbook. It’s now time to engage this tribe and have them start experiencing the handbook, in the incomplete state it’s in now, and help refine it before it gets exposed to the open internet of millions of men.  

I want to thank all my brothers, buddies, friends and professional contacts who stand together with me now to help see this sailing ship finally become seaworthy enough to be pushed away from the dock and set out to sea in the coming month(s).

I’m so privileged and grateful. Thank you!

(Highlighted names are the guys I’ve reached out to.)

  1. Adam Markle
  2. Alberto Bautista
  3. Alex (from gym)
  4. Alex Fazekas-Paul
  5. Alex Rennie
  6. Andre Doucette
  7. Andrew Day
  8. Andy Bayon
  9. Austin Barrett
  10. Benaiah Koskovich
  11. Bill Bermudez
  12. Bill Persky
  13. Bill Plenefisch
  14. Bill Rocco
  15. BJ Lawrence
  16. Brad Cushman
  17. Brad Hoag
  18. Brent Weiss
  19. Brett Serwalt
  20. Brian Clark
  21. Brian Jessup
  22. Bruce Hartman
  23. Calvin Tom
  24. Cam Richardson
  25. Carlos Martinez
  26. Cedric Terrell
  27. Cesar Bohorquez
  28. Charles Washburn
  29. Chip Milligan
  30. Clay Tschudy
  31. Craig Robertson
  32. Dalton Minard
  33. Dan (neighbor)
  34. Dan Axlerod
  35. Dan Gallien
  36. Dane Dormio
  37. Daniel Hauk
  38. David Alvarado
  39. David Gao
  40. David Highly
  41. David O’Brien
  42. David Santana
  43. Demetrius Atuña
  44. Dennis Stein
  45. Duane Stanton
  46. Eddie Meyerholtz
  47. Eric Hernandez
  48. Eugene Baronilla
  49. Fergal O’Doherty
  50. Francisco Zepeda
  51. Garth Corbin
  52. Geoff Thomas
  53. George Lapole
  54. George Tubon
  55. Grant Tom
  56. Hector Martinez
  57. Hector (gym owner)
  58. Israel Ramos
  59. Izac (gym)
  60. James Labrie
  61. James Person
  62. James Segers
  63. Jamie Colter
  64. Jason Kordestani
  65. Jaylen Braiden
  66. Jeff Simonds
  67. Jesse Palmer
  68. Jim Riggenbach
  69. Jody Mitchel
  70. Joe Gregore
  71. Joe Lucero
  72. John Alexander
  73. John Gardiner
  74. John Rumsey
  75. Jon Block
  76. Jon Weimhoff
  77. Jonny Valamehr
  78. Jose Mendoza
  79. Jose (gym)
  80. Josh (Wall Builder)
  81. Josh Arce
  82. Justin Lee
  83. Karl Kyler
  84. Kevin Waldrop
  85. Lael Corbin
  86. Lap Luu
  87. Loren Freestone
  88. Marcus Block
  89. Mark Ghitman
  90. Matt Baker
  91. Matt Carpinello
  92. Matt Luria
  93. Matt Ritchey
  94. Matty Valdespino
  95. Michael Floerchinger
  96. Michael Plouff
  97. Michael Schaeffer
  98. Michael Scott
  99. Mick Macklemore
  100. Mike Hrostoski
  101. Mike Simms
  102. Mo Bidair
  103. Nathan Haas
  104. Patrick Hudspeth
  105. Patrick Hurley
  106. Paul Spaeth
  107. Paul Tomcavage
  108. Paul Robbins
  109. Peter Larson
  110. Peter Shin
  111. Philippe Drolet
  112. Rayan Boujaram
  113. Rene Hererra
  114. Reuben Limon
  115. Richard Gaskin
  116. Rick Sainz
  117. Rob Rundle
  118. Robb Harvey
  119. Robert Houghton
  120. Rusty Bresser
  121. Ryan Brolliar
  122. Ryan Conroy
  123. Ryan O’Connor
  124. Ryan Stock
  125. Ryan Swedlund
  126. Ryan Warnock
  127. Sasha Turovsky
  128. Sean Hudson
  129. Sean Yoshikawa
  130. Sebastian Hernandez
  131. Skott Jones
  132. Spike Dale
  133. Steve Hernandez
  134. Steven Cooper
  135. Steven Worth
  136. Thaddius Donnarumma
  137. Thomas Swope
  138. Tim Geraci
  139. Tom Demich
  140. Tom Duncan
  141. Tom Hepler
  142. Tom Hymes
  143. Tom Waidzunas
  144. Trentamus Briggs
  145. Trevy James
  146. Warren Reed
  147. Wayne Delano
  148. Will Metivet
  149. Yudi Andiwinata
  150. Zarek Pilakowski
 

A “tribe” is a group of around 150 people. It’s a special number because for humans, that’s about the limit of how many people we’re able to get to know and feel like they’re part of our community.

There are companies where when a location grows past 150 people, it will split off into a new location so that the employees at any location will all get to know each other well and work together as a tight knit community with all the productivity benefits that yields. Belonging is a powerful human instinct and need.

This is a photo of a tribe in New Guinea.

 

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No Two Humans Are Alike

If we say for a moment that each of these independent human attributes listed below was only an on or off, one or the other, binary kind of thing, then to calculate the number of combinations of human beings that are possible, this list of 60 items can be calculated as 2 to the power of 60…

     260 = 1,152,921,504,606,846,976

or over 1 quintillion combinations of human beings.

But there are actually far more combinations than that because most of the attributes are spectrums, ranges, and sometimes multiple choice. And this list keeps growing because now there are 71 items below. But we’re in the general ballpark.

Long story short, no two human beings who have ever lived are alike.


Visible Human Attributes

  1. Body type
  2. Face
  3. Age
  4. Race – Asian, Black, Caucasian, etc
  5. Ethnicity – Jewish, Eritrean, Japanese, hispanic, middle-eastern, etc
  6. Fashion  – clothes, hair, makeup, bling
  7. Mannerisms – masculine, feminine, animated, reserved
  8. Fitness – from couch potato to fit physique
  9. Sex – physical appearance is male, female, or combination
  10. Voice
  11. Physical injuries, disabilities

Invisible Human Attributes

  1. Sexual orientation – same-sex, opposite sex, both
  2. Genetalia – male, female, blend of the two
  3. Gender Identity – Identify as a man, woman, or a combination
  4. Sexual experiences – each person has a different set of them
  5. Sexual Activity level – from once a year to once a day, includes sex with self
  6. Fetishes – this list usually gets longer over time, and is very unique to each person
  7. Sexual styles – traditional, wild, rough, slow, intense, spiritual
  8. Emotion – from very sensitive to seemingly dead inside
  9. Empathy – the ability to connect with other people’s experiences
  10. Shame – how much is imposed on us and how we deal with it
  11. Negative experiences – any traumas that impact one’s life
  12. Fears 
  13. Addictions
  14. Optimistic to Pessimistic
  15. Who a life partner is to us – from best friend and soul mate to…
  16. Love – the many people we love deeply and would do anything for them
  17. Diet – from junk food to veganism
  18. Exercise – from sedentary to gym junkie, hiker, walker, runner, etc
  19. Play – what we do for fun
  20. Sleep and Rest getting enough sleep has a big affect on our lives
  21. Habits – daily habits and our routine
  22. Self-improvement – from stuck in our ways to always learning something new
  23. Rhythm of life – harmonious, discordant, inconsistent, repetitive
  24. Tidy to messy
  25. Ambitions
  26. Creativity
  27. Talents – art, music, speaking, juggling, comedy, teaching, crafts, cooking, etc
  28. Experience – comes with age, hopefully
  29. Wisdom – comes with age or from study
  30. Clear Thinking Skills – we’re improving them now!
  31. Strongly Held Beliefs
  32. Limiting Beliefs – things that hold us back and stop us
  33. Integrity
  34. Discipline
  35. Languages – other languages we may be able to speak
  36. Communication Skills
  37. Achievements
  38. Quirks and eccentricities
  39. Self-expression – from bookworm to skydiver
  40. Introvert to extrovert
  41. Loner to gregarious
  42. Culture – Mexican, Jewish, Italian, Chinese, etc
  43. Parents – both mom and dad, just a mom, just a dad, neither
  44. Siblings – only child, only brothers, only sisters, both brothers and sisters
  45. Economic status from childhood to current
  46. Neighborhood from childhood to current – rough, scary, pleasant, posh
  47. Religion
  48. Extended family – from small to large
  49. Nurturing
  50. Protective of others
  51. Mentors and Idols – the people who’ve had a big influence on our lives
  52. Education – public or private, college, easy/rough/difficult schools
  53. Job History – from entry level jobs to careers
  54. Books and Movies
  55. Social Media
  56. Physical Illness – from minor chronic problems to life-threatening
  57. Mental Illness – from minor neuroses to being bipolar, schizophrenic, etc
  58. Comfort zone – how often we will leave our comfort zone
  59. Friends – the people who know us and we can turn to and count on
  60. Curious and Inquisitive

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Life's Journey

Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!

Hunter S. Thompson

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